The Psychology Inside Our Personal Boundaries

*From my old Friendster Blog site written on Dec 18, 2006.

So far, we have covered the topic of Personal Boundary in terms of how it protects us and how it defines the controllable or the uncontrollables. It makes up our identity and having a solid personal boundary helps us take care of what's inside it so that outsiders won't be able to control or affect us.

Basically, There are three major parts of psychology inside a particular personal boundary:

1) Emotional Energy (Positive and Negative)
2) Intellectual, or Ideas
3) Decision-Making

Unlike personal boundaries, these three are contained inside of the former. Besides, they 'exist' in spectrums - a continuous sequence or range of attributes. I will start off with the basics of all three in this blog.

Emotional Energy Spectrum

Emotional Energy has two parts, positive and negative - both 'exist' in spectrums. Refer to the diagram for a clearer view of the two spectrums.

Negative Emotional Energy

On the far left, we have anxiety, and on the other side is anger. Just notice how neutral we will feel everytime we get anxious but angry at the same time. Anger cancels out anxiety. Neutrality also means that you feel neither anxious nor angry. Above all, our work is actually to practice turning this spectrum into a positive one.

Positive Emotional Energy

Well being is how we take care of ourselves or how we're taken care of. It it more of what Dr Paul refers to as the "motherly energy", while confidence or self esteem is something we gain from experience, courage, decision-making, and it is more "fatherly". Being able to have balance in both of these will bring happiness - the peace of mind everyone is seeking for.

Intellectual or Ideas Spectrum

The Intellectual spectrum holds 'Education' on one end and 'Experience' on the other. Education has a lot to do with your left brain while Experience is more related to your right brain. A genius like Leonardo da Vinci is a good example of an individual who efficiently used both parts of his brain.

Decision-Making Spectrum

The Decision-making spectrum consists of 'Conscience' at one end (left) and balanced by 'Intuition' on the opposite side. Conscience is basically the ethics and the do's and dont's of life, while intuition is having the ability to know whether an environment will make a good opportunity for something, regardless of good or bad. Enron is a very intuitive company since they knew how to run away with investors' money. If we have a perfect combination of both, we will make decisions solely based on wisdom - exactly the place where leaders should be.

If we can master the two ends of a spectrum, that means we have learned the whole spectrum, and that's exactly what we're gonna do. We will discuss more about all three spectrums, in-depth, in my upcoming blogs.