Becoming More of Yourself

*From my old Friendster Blog site written on May 29, 2007.

We often talk about how we should just be ourselves. This is true, but of course it is easier said than done. Well, maybe we should ask this - how does one become more of his/herself?

I believe that it has a really strong relationship with our confidence level.

Theory: There's a linear relationship between confidence level and the ability to show one's true self - i.e. Higher confidence level helps project more of one's true self.

This theory could be true, but it might be wrong too. However, based on every observations and analyses that I've done (especially when I'm taking a bath, that is), this should be a pretty solid argument.

Confidence is not about being better than the others. It is just all about being more comfortable of ourselves. It is about behaving like your true self and being honest towards yourself. Being confident could also be described as having most of our insecurities thrown away until almost none is left. In other words, the pursuit of confidence is actually a race of getting rid all of our insecurities..

One simple example of being comfortable of one's true self is by admitting his/her own imperfections. Say "I don't know about this... and I don't know about that, too.. Please show me how" (and they're okay with it). Rather than not knowing something and pretend to know just about everything, mature confident people tend to admit their own imperfections without having any inferiorities..

Another example could also be a boyfriend/girlfriend who's hanging out with his/her friends. If he/she's good enough, he/she'd be able to talk on the phone with his/her significant other without any feelings of discomfort. This is because he/she has enough confidence to give permission to his/her own self to show his/her lover-behavior in front of his/her friends. Otherwise, one would feel insecure to talk-lovey-dovey in front of his/her friends, thinking that his/her friends would tease him/her aferwards for acting so differently..

When we have truly gotten rid all of our insecurities, that's when we'll feel the confidence coming. We'd feel comfortable with everything that we do. We'd feel okay to not know something, and to not be good at everything. It's also important to know that it's okay to do things our own way. There's definitely no need to follow everyone else. We are who we are, and being yourself, is in fact, the key to all success in most parts of our everyday lives, especially social matters...